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Most Arguments in relationships are often about Miss Understanding love Languages. It is not about what is really being said. It is more about feeling misunderstood, not even about the issue at hand.

Understanding Love languages offers a simple powerful framework to understanding why your conflicts happen. Take a look into how many of them can be softened or avoided entirely.

Here Is A Great Test For You To Find Your Love Language.

Conflict Is Not Always The Real Problem

Many of our disagreements come from emotional needs that are not met. Generally not from the actual disagreements.

Examples of Conflicts:

• One of you wants Quality Time together.
• The other one believes that providing financially is all it takes.
• This leaves both of you feeling unappreciated.

Without understanding each other’s emotional language. Your frustration will grow.

How Understanding Love Languages Change Your Communication

When as a couple you start to understand their love languages. You will begin to:

• You will start looking at your partners behavior in a different manner.
  • Like you you are the one who wants financial stability. Your partner wants to shop.
    • You will be able to say Stop. What were you really thinking when you bought this? Why are you feeling you need to spend money to feel better.
    • Like instead of Yelling.
      • You will not just break out into tears and sobbing. You will be able to say STOP. What is really wrong. I know you do not MEAN that!
      • You can take a deep breath. Then explain exactly what is bothering you instead of Yelling.
    • Without getting blamed.
      • You can explain why you are feeling unappropriated and in return: with you making all the majority of the household income. Your partner can explain what they are feeling when they shop. With your explanations both or you get things off your chest. You should also start agreeing on what is bought. This way neither of you will feel so bad.
  • Like you are the one who wants quality time together. Your partner wants actions done.
    • You want quality time together with complete attention. This is with no distractions. Now your action partner wants to clean the house or make supper.
      • One way of working this out would be a compromise. You would have to agree with it and follow through meaning actually do it. Help your partner clean the house and help make dinner. Then after everything is done. You can spend your quality time together.
  • Like you are the one who wants actions done. Your partner only wants words of affirmation.
    • You would think this is easy enough. Although, You are the one of action. Generally action does not mean you do words of affirmation. Your partner is willing to help and get things done.
      • Your emotional needs should be being met. Although, theirs is not being met at all. Since this is not in your nature. Start small with 5 complements of “Great Job”, ” I Really Appreciate You”, “I Love What You Did With This”, “This Looks Amazing”, or even “You Look Great.” If 5 Complements are to much at first just start with 2 a day. Then you can build yourself up to the 5.

Instead Of Saying, “You Never Care,” Conversations Shift Toward Clarity And Reduces Conflict:

Once Stop has been said: You have figured out this is a conflict. Start with Statements Like:

• “I feel closest when we spend time together.” Like Watching a movie together. Just sitting and having a conversation. Going to the Mall Just being together.
• “It means a lot when you notice what I do.” Like when I got a new bruise from work. When you make me dinner. When I had extra time at work and put fingernail polish on, or you noticed I was able to put more than one layer on. You just ask how many layers today.

This helps reduce defensiveness and emotional tension. This also shows that you are Understanding Love Languages within each other.

Here Is A Great Test For You To Find Your Love Language.

Preventing Small Issues From Becoming Big Ones

Understanding Love languages help couples:

• Make sure both of you Address Your Emotional Needs Early. This also means when your Emotional needs change. Discuss them with each other and come up with a solution. You can always go here for that.
• You also need to avoid repeating the same misunderstandings. It has been said to change the habit “You need to do the habit for at least 21 days”. This should start your New Habits.
• Replacing assumptions with your new found Understanding Love Languages. Reminder Love Languages change, you need to Take that Quiz Often.

This does not mean Conflict Disappears altogether. It just Reduces Conflict to become less damaging to your relationship. Then it should become more productive.

Getting Your Relationship To A Healthy Standing! Setting You Up For A Great Way To Move Forward!

Watch your Relationship grow stronger! When both Sides feel Emotionally Safe. Now you have learned how love is received. How Love Language has transformed your everyday interactions to reduce your unnecessary conflict.

While Understanding Love Languages does not mean. You have to change who you are. It really means learning a more effective way to deal with your conflicts. Letting you connect in a more efficient way.

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